My Feeshfeesh inspiration to writing, who I actively stalk, wrote about a gentleman who she was seeing and how his issues kept him from really moving forward into his life and new relationships. I scoured my blog to see that if I had written anything about moving past emotional baggage. From train to office, I've done nothing but think about it. Ok, except my little rant about how these 2 bitches in brown poofy coats cut me off, but that's not here or there.
Here's the thing about emotional baggage. We all have it. We are the only ones that can choose to let it affect those around us or not. I still have some deep rooted issues with some people that are in my past, but those issues that I have are not going to keep me from loving my husband, friends, family and pets.
I am a Scorpio. We are very passionate people. I, at one point in my life, ran solely on emotion....not a good way to live. It can really make you bi-polar. So I started looking at my emotions from a logical point of view. From there you are able to pull apart and dissect emotional experiences in your life, figure them out and move forward. Here are some easy steps to help you in this process:
1) Everyone is different. Each relationship you go through is going to be different because no 2 people are the same. Go into each situation with a clean slate on your heart.
2) If you expect others to treat you that way people in your past have, they are going to. You are constantly put off energy and signals of what you are afraid of. The most energy you give it, the more it is going to happen. Let it go.
3) Ask yourself "why" all the time? See what you were supposed to learn from your past relationships. Example: I dated this hot (emotionally stunted) guy for 3 crazy months. Why? Because all I asked from above was to fall in love, and that happened, I fell head over heels. It fell apart horribly! After picking myself off the bathroom floor covered in tears and snot, and realizing it was exactly what I had asked for, nothing more, nothing less, my world became right once again.
4) Ask people who's opinion you value and appreciate about the relationship. Let them shine a 3rd party perspective on the situation. So many times we live/love with blinders on and those around us see more than we do.
You have to believe that everything happens for a reason. The whole world is connected to a huge spider web of life. One way or another. There's no such thing as "the one that got away" only if it were meant to be it would have been. Even know I think about my past but I don't question it. Life is so confusing but if you take the time to map it all out and see how everything in one way or another was connected by the simple powers of your spoken word, then you it will all become clear.
Expectedly, Merry Ms Berry
