Inspired by my favorite blogger Miss Tirade, I want everyone to know that it doesn't matter who you are, we all crave that touch, that rush, the brush of skin on skin, that releases so much inside of us, not only physical, but chemically and emotionally.
Yes....sex can be a drug. Like a lot of things that people can get addicted to, its because of the feelings that are attached to it.
An orgasm releases certain chemicals in the brain that makes us want to be close to others, I think its called the cuddle chemical (or something along those lines). It makes us think that sex is more than it might be. Ever been with someone that makes your teeth go numb or unable to move your limbs after hours of swinging from the ceiling, disrupting not only the neighbors but every breathing animal within a 2 mile radius? Yes, it is amazing. But how about having that and then not having that person stay around just to spend time with you, to appreciate the calm, catching breathes that make you feel whole as a person and as a couple. It cuts you to the core and makes you feel utterly worthless.
I've been on the both sides of multiple coins. From having a wildly passionate physical relationship where we couldn't communicate, being single and having one night stands with hotties, a great relationship with no passion and a relationship in such emotionally turmoil all we are stuck and distant.
Here's the thing about giving it up to feel that rush, to be close to someone at their most vulnerable, naked and panting......it's not all it's cracked up to be when you wake up alone. But it also sucks to have someone there to hug throughout the day but not want to be with you at night. Either way, its a balance of that physical touch we all crave, but for our emotional well-being.
Fucking, sex, making love, foreplay.......from one to another being satisfied is tricky. To find someone that can satisfy you physically and emotionally is the battle we all want to win. Just when you think you have a handle on it, something creeps in and messes it all up. Whether a fight, an end of relationship, the lack of one, or other people's emotions that are completely out of your control.
We all want some version of something.....nice, hard, dirty, sweet, bitey, raw or romantic.
If you're single you feel that you are free to do whatever you want, little do we know it backfires emotionally on us. And those of us in a relationship, think we are set until life settles in and walls are put up and it feels like we are single and alone all over again.
Come to think about it......all my relationships have been unbalanced my whole life. Fuck, that sucks! In one way or another, my heart or body always yearns for more. Oh well, kinda stuck with working with what I have right now. and so be it.
so with that being said. never settle for one half or the other. there has to be a balance out there for all of us where we can be emotionally taken care and still get off screaming to the heavens. Until then, stay true to yourself and know you will be your just desserts. Don't give into your addictions! We all deserve to be happy and at peace from within.
Cravingly yours, Merry Ms Berry
