God loves Sluts!

I find fighting on Facebook futile and immature, but that doesn't mean I don't like to stir the pot every now and again. I, also, don't like 2 faced people trying to push their opinions on other people when they have clearly done the walk of shame themselves.

I have a "friend" and I'm using that term loosely because she only seems to reach out to me when she's in need and never to just hang out, anymore. Before it didn't bother me so much because we both had extremely busy lives, so any time together was appreciated. I'm not sure what her life is exactly like now, since I never hear from her, but then again I've given up really trying to keep her in my life. It's just another path once intertwined now gaining distance. Now that this "friend" is married and pregnant, she feels that she has the right to publicly rip on people who she doesn't even know about things she barely knows anything about. She ridiculed a "star" and called her a whore on Facebook because of said "star's" dating life. Saying that she need to act classier if she's going to live in the public eye. Oh it gets better.

1) How is it classy calling someone, you don't even know anything about, a whore on Facebook? To tell someone to act classy, you have to be classy yourself, and KNOW what it means.

2) Said "friend" was a super slut!!!!
  - you might be able to hide the fact you were a slut from the world, the your friends know the truth

3) It takes a slut to know a slut

4) who cares? If someone wants to live in the public eye, transparently, I think they should be commended for it, not condemned. Dating, married, cheating, single, gay.....anything, it's their life!

5) She then went on blaming people like this "star" for teenage girl bullying because as a role model she shouldn't be jumping from guy to guy. But it's okay for her to jump bed to bed. hmm.....?


Ok, so when do we stop blaming everyone else for our own shortcomings? I grew up in the age of Madonna. MADONNA!!!! The leader of the public media sexual revolution! Like a virgin but NOT! But you didn't see me skanking it up in high school. I make conscious decisions and held myself responsible for ALL of them. While my other friends were getting promiscuous, I was working and focusing on bigger better things. I didn't care whether or not they were hooking up with people. It was their bodies and their choices. As long as I was allowed to be me, then they were allowed to be themselves, no judgement passed. The crazy thing was that they judged themselves more than I would ever dream to.

People who throw stones at glass houses need to quick calling the kettle black and look in the mirror. What you ridicule others for are the same things you don't like in yourself.

I called her out for passing judgement on this young woman. She said she's "just stating the facts." What facts? No one really knows anything about anyone's life. No body. No one knows if that public figure is a slut or not. All we know is that she's dated a lot of people. Even if she did get intimate with them, it's still nobody's business. Who cares?

This so call friend preaches God and Bible version every other Facebook post but then judges others on the next. Not to mention her love for Britney Spears....umm.....ex-crazy slut. If that's not 2 faced and hypocritical, then I don't know what it. God loves sluts!!! God loves prudes!  

Whether we make right or wrong choices, God loves all his children the same. He wants them to be happy. Who are we to judge whether what is right or wrong for a person? Now, I'm not condoning heinous acts like murder and such, I'm just staying if you want to give a part of yourself away, you can. If you want to save yourself for someone special, you can do that too.

To have this person think she knows anything about someone else bothers me. Maybe if she looked in the mirror every now and again she would have more compassion for those around her. Knowing her, she'll go back to living in her bubble where she thinks she knows better than anyone else. 

If you like to sleep around, God love ya for it. If you don't like to sleep around, God love ya for it.  If you are trying to figure it out along the way, the by golly keep trying to do so. Either way, we are all outsiders looking into to other people's lives. We will never truly know what is going on. Focus on how you treat others, whether online or in real lives because before you know it, you might push people who care away.

Justly yours, Merry Ms Berry

Failure is not really an option

This is piggybacking off a lovely lady's blog that I subscribe to. She claims that she sucks at relationships and fails more than not. Here's the thing about relationships, they are not like biology class. You do not pass or fail. They do not succeed or die. I am talking about ALL relationships. Intimate, friendship, professional or other. Our paths intertwine in and out of one another's lives all the time for reasons unknown in the beginning. Some relationships stay together for eternity and others end. It doesn't mean those that end are failures. They are learning experiences. They are helpful little stepping stones for our present and our futures.

Think about it. When one relationship ends, you take something from it with you and forever. Whether its good memories or bad, something profound, something learned. We are constantly learning from one another because we all have something to teach. Not one person knows everything. I believe it's humanly impossible to know, learn and retain all the information in the universe. Shit, I don't believe we've even scratched the surface of knowledge anyway.

How about some examples?

Even though I ended the relationship with the man I was first engaged to many moons ago, I never believed it to be a failure. I learned so much from that relationship that those marks on my heart will never fade. We were just not to be forever.

Some people are meant to in your life for a short time, others for longer.

Another example?

I had to deal with and survive through an extremely toxic relationship with this douche bag, lose a handful of "friends", only to reach out to others and ultimately find my hubby.

More?

Sometimes we are given shitty people in our lives to deal with in order to find our inner strength. It's another way for us to find out what our true morals & values are. We don't find these things out until we are tested against them. From within is where we find the strength to put our foot down and say "hey fucktard! That's not cool. I'm not going to pretend it is. It's rude & shitty of you. And I've decided I don't need someone like you in my life!"

I might have not used those exact words all the time, but some version of them quite enough to know when I'm done with having someone in my life. Here's the thing about people, they are ALL like cats on coke. One day they are all cuddly and then out of no where they turn on you when all you want to do is love on them. It is what it is. The older I'm getting the more I've realized who my truer friends are. The friends that want me in their lives as much as I want them in mine, and respect each other the same. There are even times when people leave your life and then somehow wonder back in at a completely different stage.

The only thing I can tell you is not to worry. Let people go. Like butterflies in the wind. Wish them the best and hopefully they won't get eaten by a passing bird, but if they do...it's God's will and not your own. Take what you can learn from it and move on. You are not meant to keep everyone you meet in your life. There's just not enough of you to go round. Also, there are 8 BILLION people in the world, there's no need to get caught up on a few.

I've met and been friends with hundreds of people, and I'm perfectly happy with who is in my life. I love them all. They might not be there next year, and if so, I know there will be a better person in their place. But for now....here's to the present and the people in it. Everyone can GPO!

Significantly yours, Merry Ms Berry