Failure is not really an option

This is piggybacking off a lovely lady's blog that I subscribe to. She claims that she sucks at relationships and fails more than not. Here's the thing about relationships, they are not like biology class. You do not pass or fail. They do not succeed or die. I am talking about ALL relationships. Intimate, friendship, professional or other. Our paths intertwine in and out of one another's lives all the time for reasons unknown in the beginning. Some relationships stay together for eternity and others end. It doesn't mean those that end are failures. They are learning experiences. They are helpful little stepping stones for our present and our futures.

Think about it. When one relationship ends, you take something from it with you and forever. Whether its good memories or bad, something profound, something learned. We are constantly learning from one another because we all have something to teach. Not one person knows everything. I believe it's humanly impossible to know, learn and retain all the information in the universe. Shit, I don't believe we've even scratched the surface of knowledge anyway.

How about some examples?

Even though I ended the relationship with the man I was first engaged to many moons ago, I never believed it to be a failure. I learned so much from that relationship that those marks on my heart will never fade. We were just not to be forever.

Some people are meant to in your life for a short time, others for longer.

Another example?

I had to deal with and survive through an extremely toxic relationship with this douche bag, lose a handful of "friends", only to reach out to others and ultimately find my hubby.

More?

Sometimes we are given shitty people in our lives to deal with in order to find our inner strength. It's another way for us to find out what our true morals & values are. We don't find these things out until we are tested against them. From within is where we find the strength to put our foot down and say "hey fucktard! That's not cool. I'm not going to pretend it is. It's rude & shitty of you. And I've decided I don't need someone like you in my life!"

I might have not used those exact words all the time, but some version of them quite enough to know when I'm done with having someone in my life. Here's the thing about people, they are ALL like cats on coke. One day they are all cuddly and then out of no where they turn on you when all you want to do is love on them. It is what it is. The older I'm getting the more I've realized who my truer friends are. The friends that want me in their lives as much as I want them in mine, and respect each other the same. There are even times when people leave your life and then somehow wonder back in at a completely different stage.

The only thing I can tell you is not to worry. Let people go. Like butterflies in the wind. Wish them the best and hopefully they won't get eaten by a passing bird, but if they do...it's God's will and not your own. Take what you can learn from it and move on. You are not meant to keep everyone you meet in your life. There's just not enough of you to go round. Also, there are 8 BILLION people in the world, there's no need to get caught up on a few.

I've met and been friends with hundreds of people, and I'm perfectly happy with who is in my life. I love them all. They might not be there next year, and if so, I know there will be a better person in their place. But for now....here's to the present and the people in it. Everyone can GPO!

Significantly yours, Merry Ms Berry