The price of starting over.

As a woman in her 30's, life and relationships bring about a whole new meaning. I, myself, am not one that is afraid to start over. Some women think that ending a relationship means giving up. But if you know you're not in the right relationship doesn't that kinda mean you're giving up on yourself? I know women who are afraid to be alone, they want to be married and start a family. Sometimes this happens early in life for people, for other it happens in their 30's, other women I have met has started in their 40's. We never know when it's supposed to happen for us. Happiness comes when you choose to allow it to.

Is there a price to starting over? Of course there is. There's a price or consequences in all the decisions that we make, even the tiny ones. Most of the time we don't see these consequences until later down the road, sometimes we see them right away.

Why am I bringing this up now? Our world are in constant change. I've known this my entire life. Your life could change any minute. It's just one of those things. With that said, we are able to change our lives anytime we see fit. I know of amazing women that are fighting, clinging and hoping that their relationships turn out to be everything they've dreamed about. But over the years it's hasn't come to that. Why? Why do we cling onto relationships that don't seem to be moving forward? Of course there are lots of changes in every relationship, but are they the changes that mean progress or recess? Are we afraid that once we let go, it's only then they'll change and we'll miss out? People are slow to change, what you see is what you get.

Stay or go? If you know you're in a relationship you shouldn't be, what are gaining by staying? What would you gain by leaving? If you stay, what are you sacrificing from yourself? Are you happy? Isn't that the point of being in a relationship? Trust, faith, love, friendship are all the things I think of when it comes to being in a relationship. When you don't have those things you have disloyalty, hurt, and animosity, all things that hurt your heart.

So instead of the price of starting over....what is the price of NOT starting over? I was willing to leave a house and all its contents, take my bed, my dog and my favorite chair and leave. Why? I wanted to be happy. I didn't want to be with someone who made me feel about myself, I can do that all by myself. I needed someone to make me feel better when I got to that dark place, not to put me there.

We all deserve to be happy. We are also responsible for our own happiness. If you're not happy, it's okay to change your life. It's yours. Lead by example. Stand up for your happiness and let others see that it's okay for them to change too.

Inspirationally yours, Merry Ms Berry