We've all heard this line but like it or not it's true. But the fun part about it is that it's true from both sides. It's both of you! Whether it's physical, mental, emotion or spiritual, there's always going to be something that shows itself to let you know a break up is near. AND THAT'S OKAY! Yes, break ups suck. But they can also be exciting. Think about it. Break ups mean a few things. 1) you or the other person is not happy. Which means something better is out there. 2) You have another life changing experience under your belt. 3) You can be recklessly, irresponsibly single. Those all sound like a lot of fun to me!
I know a lot of people who take break ups super hard because they feel like they've failed. Or they feel stupid for picking the wrong mate. Or they think there is something wrong with them. None of those are correct. We choose who we choose at that time because there's something in them that makes us want them. There's nothing wrong in that. We all make mistakes. At one point in your life you chose that person to fulfill something in your heart. If it didn't work out it means that it didn't fill you up enough and the relationship was lacking in other spots. Or you were just too different to work those differences out. Either way....it's OKAY!!!
There was a time when I dated my best friend. Almost instantaneously after the first kiss I knew I had made the wrong decision. Instead of stopping it right there I proceeded to give the relationship a chance for a couple of weeks, but I knew it was going to have to end. Something deep inside screamed and clawed its way out. During the break up talk, I had to tell him it was me because it really was. There were so many wonderful aspects of him but something bigger, stronger and wiser was working against me being with him. That was the hardest conversation that I ever had to have. I was breaking the heart of my best friend. I had to. For the sake of his happiness and that of my own.
All things have a beginning and for the most part all things have an end. It's all of the circle of life. It's just one those things. If you know there's something inside of you that logically doesn't seem to be making sense but emotionally you know you should listen....LISTEN TO IT!!! Sometimes you just have to rip off the band-aid to let the wound heal with some fresh air. If it's meant to be in the future it will. If not, then it won't.
I believe that sometimes dating is like sales. You just have to run the numbers. That and making out with people is totally fun! You are welcome to use my pick up line. "You're cute. Wanna make out?" Worked every time!!You're welcome!
Introspectively yours, Merry Ms Berry
I know a lot of people who take break ups super hard because they feel like they've failed. Or they feel stupid for picking the wrong mate. Or they think there is something wrong with them. None of those are correct. We choose who we choose at that time because there's something in them that makes us want them. There's nothing wrong in that. We all make mistakes. At one point in your life you chose that person to fulfill something in your heart. If it didn't work out it means that it didn't fill you up enough and the relationship was lacking in other spots. Or you were just too different to work those differences out. Either way....it's OKAY!!!
There was a time when I dated my best friend. Almost instantaneously after the first kiss I knew I had made the wrong decision. Instead of stopping it right there I proceeded to give the relationship a chance for a couple of weeks, but I knew it was going to have to end. Something deep inside screamed and clawed its way out. During the break up talk, I had to tell him it was me because it really was. There were so many wonderful aspects of him but something bigger, stronger and wiser was working against me being with him. That was the hardest conversation that I ever had to have. I was breaking the heart of my best friend. I had to. For the sake of his happiness and that of my own.
All things have a beginning and for the most part all things have an end. It's all of the circle of life. It's just one those things. If you know there's something inside of you that logically doesn't seem to be making sense but emotionally you know you should listen....LISTEN TO IT!!! Sometimes you just have to rip off the band-aid to let the wound heal with some fresh air. If it's meant to be in the future it will. If not, then it won't.
I believe that sometimes dating is like sales. You just have to run the numbers. That and making out with people is totally fun! You are welcome to use my pick up line. "You're cute. Wanna make out?" Worked every time!!You're welcome!
Introspectively yours, Merry Ms Berry
I am guilty of thinking every one of those things in paragraph 2. Sometimes I still do. But for the most part, I know it WASN'T me, and I have to find comfort in knowing that to move on. Awesome post lovely!
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