I love to give of myself to others. Not in a dirty, slutty way, but in an emotional, spiritual, monetary, or brainstorming way. I love to share with people. If I have a dollar and you need it, it's yours. If you have a sitaution that needs attending to, I'm here to help look for solutions. I like being that person that people can turn to.
But I do not like people who are leeches, who drain the energy right from your soul. The people who know how nice you are and think they can take advantage of you. Those people in your life that do nothing but complain and dump all their problems on you. The same people that unless you are "going to take care" of them, don't want to be bothered with doing the right thing to help themselves. If you are one of these people....JUST STOP IT!(after rereading this, how do these people know that its them?...haha!)
If you are one of the people that keeps giving and giving and giving and is starting to feel resentful or just feel drained.....STOP giving! It's okay to stop. I give you permission. You have to take care of your FIRST!!! If you are the one that keeps listening to the same problems from people, over and over and over and over, and even though you have given solutions out, nothing changes....stop listening. Let these people figure out their own crap because apparently they don't think they need to listen to you. If you've been having the same conversation for years, it's time to stop having it. It's not going to change. You can be the only one that changes. And trust me, as I type this to you, I am telling myself the same thing.
The world is about balance...giving and taking. If someone is offering you help, take it. If someone is not offering you help don't expect them to drop everything for you. Don't expect people to come to your rescue. If you need rescuing then your problems are way deeper than they appear. If someone offers you help and you turn them down, more times than not the offer will be off the table later. If you are miserable and are constantly having to spill your drama on someone just to listen but in turn you don't heed advice, your problems are YOURS. Those problems aren't going away because of....YOU! When you are concerned about no one but yourself and things don't go your way, of course your world is going to be upside down. Your bubble is a small place to be. Add issues inside the bubble and where do they have to go....NOWHERE! They are going to stick around until you change and LEAVE YOUR BUBBLE!
Here's how to be better, less whiny, less dramatic, adding value to society kind of person. Get off your ass and help someone else out. Ya, I said it!!! Stop thinking about yourself. The world is full of problems, if you try to solve them I promise you that you will feel better about yourself. If you are out in the world trying to make it a better place I promise you that you will find solutions to your own problems. If you are giving of yourself, others will want to give to you. Ya know......BALANCE!!!!!
If you give to just receive you are missing the point. Give because you want to and the universe will want to give to you. When you meet someone like me, don't expect me to save you...you wanna know why? Because I have to make sure that my life and hubby come first. If that is endangered because someone needs saving, that's a sign that no amount of my help is going to save them. And yes, if you haven't guessed, I have had to deal with exact subject in my own life in the last few days. I've had to say NO. No to watching or listening to people who will not help themselves. I will always love people for being people but it doesn't mean I can save any of them, unless they want to save themselves. I only have what's in my head and my heart. Start digging in my pockets and you're going to pull back a bloody stump...figurative of course.
Bitterly yours, Merry Ms (bite bite) Berry
P.S. If you have a friend that calls you to "just check in to say hi and howdy do", make sure you do that same. It's called being a GOOD FRIEND!
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