I am blessed with many people in my life. There's a good amount of giving and receiving, loving and sharing, fighting and disagreements. This is life! I am also blessed with the continuous opportunity to help people. If people that I care about come to me with a problem or issue, 9 times out of 10 I am able to help them. It's just one of those things. I am happy to share, connect and direct someone to help them out of a negative situation.
With that said.......I am also learning when to turn around, run the other way and let people fall. Why? Because that's what my mom did for me. She gave me the chance to succeed and the chance to fail. She let me hit rock bottom, showered me with love and watched as I clawed my way back up. I earned everything I have, of course getting gifts along the way, but nothing I expected or felt I was entitled to. I am thankful for everything that has ever come into my life. And if I wasn't, it's funny but that stuff is no longer around. Interesting how that works out.
There are people out there that have never felt the pain of a skinned knee, the break of a heart being cheated or the feel of the bottom where all is lost. These kinds of people have been "protected" and spoiled by parents that thought that giving their kids everything will make life easier. In turn, it actually hurts them. It hinders them from really finding out what they are made of. It keeps them from making sound decisions bases on real life experience (since theirs are diluted). They are ungrateful to having to roll up their sleeves and kick some ass when there is ass that needs kicking. I have some of these people in my life. It's really sad to see grown adults who haven't made a sound decision in their life whine about their failures or how things aren't working out because 1) they are not trying hard enough 2) don't know what to do so they don't do anything or 3) are waiting and relying on other people to save them.
Like a mother of an addict, I am an enabler. I am an emotional enabler. I believe that deep down inside everyone knows when the rubber has to meet the road, where the right thing to is harder than the easy thing, and that when push comes to get shit done. Why? Because that's how I am. If I'm like that, shouldn't a lot of other people like that? Ask any of my peoples. If I need to get something done,......it gets done. It's not hard, you just do it. You go out and do it, no matter how hard. The right thing is always better to go than not.
So "these" spoiled individuals come to me in their desperation. I am only one person and can only really save you if you really need saving. I am blessed with people in my life that help me offer other people gifts and blessings that I can share. But, if I give you blessing, that you have asked for, and you throw it back in my face and say it's "not right for your situation", even though it is.....be warned. This is your only warning. You will not only not ever receieve another loving, heart felt gift from me again. I'll make sure you know how lost and delusional you actually are, living in a world that you think that should take care of you. You wanna know who's supposed to take care of you, as an adult.........YOU!!!!
NO ONE ELSE!!!!
Yes, we all far on hard times. This is when you roll up your sleeves, shovel shit out of your way and make things better for yourself. Not sit on your ass and wait until someone else takes care of it for you. I will let you fall. I will watch you fall from grace and have the chance, just like all of us, to find out who you really are. Fight your way back to good and congratulate you for becoming the real you. It's hard, please just fight to be the best you that you can.
Motheringly your, Merry Ms Berry
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