This is the ultimate question. Ever start seeing someone or actually get into a relationship but things keep getting in the way of simple bliss? Whether it's "baby mama drama", long distance, lack of communication, insecurities, jobs, school...it could be anything. Whether how big or small the situation or issue, it always seems to get in the way. The issues ends up being bigger or more important than the relationship. You hear things like "when this is over then....." or "just wait until I can do......" and it will be all better. Well, I'm here to tell you, don't hold your breath.
This is what I know about myself and the men that I've dated. No amount of time, distance or issues would keep us apart. I've had long distance relationships from 150 to 400 miles apart. Meaning I had no less than a 2.5 hour drive to see the person I cared for. Where it was city to suburbs, rebound to past hiccups, if you want to be together you will find a way.
If you find that the littlest of things are getting in the way from moving forward those are what I like to call....SIGNS! Signs that some things are just not meant to be. Just because you love someone, doesn't always mean you are meant to be together. If a relationship ends, more times than not it's meant to end for a reason. How about some examples?
Back in high school I had the biggest crush on this one guy that I thought was totally out of my league. We both began to notice each other because we had lunch together and didn't live too far from each other. We would run into each other at stores and he dated someone I had class with. Over the next couple of years things just didn't quite match up. Even though we were both very attracted to each other, things always just got in the way. I went off to school, he had a girlfriend when I was single. Then he would be single and I would have a boyfriend. I should have taken the hint but love is blind.
It took him flying across the country when we were both single for us to even have a chance to some how figure out to be together. A few months into openly discussing "us" we decided that we were going to make a go for it. After a few months of being in Maryland, he up and moved half way back towards Chicago. Ohio is closer that Maryland. Over the next 2 years we had the best of times and the worst of times. There were moments of pure bliss and there were, also, moments that we wanted to kill each other. It was too much to handle, I had to end it for the sake of my sanity. Even after he moved back to Chicago we still could never get on the same page to see if we wanted to make a run at "us" again. After so many years of fighting, loving and figuring each other out, we just agreed that we make better friends than anything.
Even though we loved each other and saw the best and the worst from one another, some people are just not meant to end up together. There were bigger forces in the world that were trying to keep us apart, but we were both stubborn mules about it. We both learned so much from each other as a couple and a lot as just friends. We had the opportunity to see each other through multiple sets of eyes.
Each random, failed or messy relationship is there for a reason. It's there to learn and grow from. Just because it ended didn't mean there was no purpose for it. So just because it wasn't meant to be forever, doesn't mean it wasn't meant to be in life.
Take the time to reflect and see what you liked, didn't liked and learned from one another. This information will greatly help you not to repeat the situation in the future.
Purposely yours, Merry Ms Berry
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