Easy vs. Right?

When has the question of doing the right thing & doing the easy thing ever become an option in people's minds? This is not your typical "Berry one on one" blog, but it still have to do with people's relationships with others.

I've been making some simple observations as I have been my entire life and easy doesn't always stay easy, on the contrary it becomes harder over time. Let's view an example.

I have friends and family that in their early childhood had it pretty easy. They never really had to bust their ass for much and they were rarely told "no". It's not that they were incapable but their parents we able to spoil them with whatever they wanted, whether money, cars, clothes or vacations. Now that they are older and more mature adults, they are the ones that I see struggling mentally, emotionally and even financially. When it comes to having the "the rubber meet the road" they look for the easy way out, thinking that they should just bide their time before someone can  save them. Doesn't that mean that they are compromising their morals and values...or what are their morals and values? I often wonder what keeps them from throwing caution to the mind and doing what is right instead of what's easy? How is putting yourself in a shitty situation because it's easier actually easier?

Ok, here's an example of the other side of the coin. Those without.

First, small children do not know what it means to live without. As long as they have mom and dad's love all is right with the world. Most of them of would even prefer to be without clothing, so kiss off your designer labels. Poop is still poop whether it's in Gucci or Target.

I grew up with everything that I needed.....NOT everything I wanted. My parents were growing a business, my dad was an interesting character to have as a role model and if I wanted something that my parents couldn't or didn't want to provide after the age of 15, I had to get it for myself. PERIOD. If I wanted something outside of my needs, I had to get it myself. Also, emotionally I tore myself apart trying to learn what was the best for me. I tried being a sheep and do what every one else was doing, but I found that it never fit who I wanted to be. I've also watched friends in the same situations battle the same battles I was.

Of course we all wanted the fancy totebags and the trendiest shoes but looking back now it just wasn't that important. I was more of a girl for comfort, not for fashion. I knew as a teenager that if "the popular people" (or anyone for that matter) were going to judge me on what I wore instead of the person that I was on the inside then they: 1) sucked as humans 2) had no taste in people 3) lacked social skills and 4) were not going to be fun to have as friends anyway. (FYI, I had and still have the bestest friends ever!!!)))

I am NOT without mistakes, mess ups, arrest and compromise. But I freely manned up and took responsibility for all my actions and made conscious decisions whether or not I would do those mistakes again. I've put myself in relationships where my morals and values were compromised and immediately took myself out, no matter on who, what or where. If I didn't have my morals and values backing me up what did I really have to stand on for making my other life decisions? I find myself wanting to make the right decision, no matter how hard it may be, because I know in the long run it will make life easier. It's like knowing you have to break up with that crazy boyfriend because he's not your "forever" but it's hard because you see his potential to be amazing. Well, you can't build a life on potential. It's like revving your car in the driveway. Yes you can hear and maybe "feel" the power but you're still not going anywhere.

Also, those who grew up without have found out what life is really all about. It's about appreciating the little things that are not in your control. They dig deeper into their relationships and hold them and those around them to a higher level of thoughts and feelings. Yes, it's nice to have nice things. It's also way better to have those around you that you love so much that in a crisis when all your stuff fails, its those people that have your back. But it's not easy!!!! You have to stand your ground and make personal scarifies to have those people in  your life. You are who you hang out with. If you hang out with shit....well what do you become? mmm hmmm, do I need to say it?

If we lead by example of what is right, then we would never have to "watch our backs" or worry about what's next to come. We've lost our faith in mankind because every one is looking for the easy way, potentially messing it up for others. Well stop it!

Man up!

Stubbornly yours, Merry Ms Berry