July 8, 2011

When to hide & when to overload....

We have all heard that life is about balance. From breathing in and then out, eating to pooping, happy to sad, buying new stuff and throwing out the old. The same should go for your emotional health. If you are dealing with your emotions and have given yourself more than ample time sitting in the dark, pondering what happen and still don't have answers, then it's time to get up and start doing something. A lot of the time we are able to meditate, sulk, mope or cry our ways to the answers that we are seeking, like a bolt of lightening it just strikes us and we have the "Ah-ha" moment. Then there are times where the more we think about it the more confused we get and we become tortured by those thoughts and experiences that are readily available, instead of the getting the deeper meanings of things. After taking that time and getting no where, get up, get out and consume yourself with so much that you will be inundated information. Who cares what kind of information it is, you never know where an idea or your answer may spur from.

Example: For the sake of my emotional and mental well being, I left my first love after 4 years of obsessing over him, 2 years of dating and a broken engagement. It was a very intense relationship of  a lot of "firsts" that I will only have. But I had to go. Even though I was the one with the smoking gun it still hurt to leave. I had questioned myself constantly, wondering where I could have been better, how could I have loved him more or was I that bad of a girlfriend to make us fight all the time. After some time I couldn't take these thoughts so I opened myself up to the world and just kept myself busy. Busy busy busy! I had 3 part time jobs, with a combined average of 65 hours a week in work, sometimes more, sometimes less. I knew I was pushing myself but I enjoyed each job. The thing is that even though your main focus is constantly there, those thoughts will always find a couple of seconds to flood back in, if you like it or not.

I found that the more I worked the more I was surrounded by people. The more people I was around and able to talk to the more I was able to find different answers, experiences and situations that helped figure out my own crap. You don't have to take anyone's advice, I never had. I would collect information from an array of different sources and then see each little piece that might help me. I am a collection of the world. We all handle life differently, but we all have to handle life. Seek out others because more likely than not someone has figured it out faster, better and more effectively than you have. Learn that way and then you can help someone else in the future.

Sharing the love, always Merry Ms Berry

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