Women! We are all guilty of being with or going after a "bad boy". Our maternal instincts kick in, we believe deep down all people are good and we think that with enough love they'll turn into the wonderful man or woman you see inside. Yup, I've been there too. And no, they won't change, not even for you. It's because we often mistake cockiness or confidence.
Here are some red flags.
1. they've cheated on every relationship, but somehow "you're different". No, you're not.
2. Fights ensue over nothing but somehow you come out as the bad guy. You've done nothing wrong as yet you get accused of cheating, lying or sneaking around. This is called "projecting". It means they are actually doing those things to you.
3. They travel with a lot of drama in their life. They can't let go people or issues from the past that would make yours and their life better. Whether its pictures of old ex's, ex's that don't seem to get the hint, old booty calls that "don't get the hint". They are in their life for a reason, they're not letting go of them.
4. They are either calling you every 20 seconds or they go days without a single word. There's no middle ground. That means they don't trust you because they can't be trusted.
5. You make excuses for him or her for their bad behavior. (Ex. he's been hurt before and has his wall up. She had a rough childhood. He's torn on what he is and who he wants to be). BLAH BLAH BLAH!
6. You're constantly doing them favors.
7. When you say "he's not like that when its just me and him". That means he's a 2 faced douche bag! Of course he's going to be nice to you when you're alone, he's getting laid. Out in public he doesn't have to because he or she knows you're not going to make a scene. (except me, I'm all about making scenes. You have the gall to talk shit, I have the balls to put you in your place.)
That's just a few RED FLAGS that I came up with off the top of my head. I know if I sat here for a little longer I could think of more. But you get the point. Some people are just douche bags, male or female. Deep down, not everyone is good and you should not be with them. Some people deserve to rot alone in their own ickyness. Good people are consistent, giving and courteous. If you don't make yourself a priority, who will?
With all my love, MerryMsBerry
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