I recently learned that most young girls are not told what to expect and what not to except when it comes to relationships. Even as grown, mature women with children, some just don't know what a good relationship looks like.
Many women friends that I have love my husband and they love to see us together, interacting with our everyday lives. They are always commenting on how we are always there for each other even when we're not in the same room. Or how I've devoted myself to him.....me the free spirit that was never going to be tied down. In the back on my mind I think "you can have all of this too. Why can't you see that?"
Throughout the many relationship and learning experiences in my life, I have always chosen each person to be with. I come to find out that some women are in their relationships because they were chosen first and that should be enough. Is it? Just because someone wants to be with you doesn't you have to be with them. OMG! Could you imagine being in a relationship with everyone that hit on you? Holy shit, that's too much to process.
When being with someone, make sure that not only do they want to be with you but that you want to be with them. Both parties should be making the effort to show one another how very important you or they are. Relationships are not only a 2 way street but a give and take.
Yes, it feels great to be wanted but also feels great to want or miss someone. If you are only filled with needing to be needed then what happens when you are not needed for whatever reason, what else do you have to fall back on? Also that leaves a huge open door to be let down because since you don't have any expectations from them since they did all the "picking" then that leaves everything for interpretation. It's kinda like take what you can get, and you get whatever comes your way. AND THAT IS NO WAY TO LIVE.
Love you! Merry Ms Berry
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