I hear time and time again about how people take other people's feeling in consideration in front of their own and it drives me insane!!!! Now I am not saying to walk all over people or not take their feelings in consideration ever, but there's a fine line to holding respect for yourself and becoming a push over. Yes, we want to be kind to others, but when it comes to matters of the heart you have to protect yourself for those who don't not want to add value to your life.
If you are in a relationship, the beginning, the middle, a psuedo-relationship, testing the waters, on a first date, at any given point whether on the way to a relationship or already in one, never put your feelings aside for someone else's. You have every right to feel what you feel, and if someone else can't understand that or does not what to validate or acknowledge them, it's time to move the *#!% on!
If you are starting to have strong feelings for someone and have not told said person, its noone's fault but your own if the relationship doesn't go anywhere. There has to be open lines of communication on where you want to be and go. If you don't know if the other person is on the same page or not, its time to open your mouth and ask. At least you will know whether you get to move forward or you have to cut times, so not to waste your or their time.
If you can't tell, this topic fires me up a little. Too many people keep their mouth shut hoping that things will fall into place.....well people are not mind readers. I totally wish they were because then we wouldn't have these issues. Then again, I wouldn't be blogging about it either. So....long story short. Open your mouth and convey what you want. Whether it be a fling or something more serious, no one will know anything until you let them know. (period)
Loves! Merry (fired up) Ms Berry
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