The dreaded "S" word....single. Not for me. I loved loved loved being single but at the same time I like being in relationships. I think its because I was okay with whatever I was doing or wherever I might have been. I, also, remember at one point in my life when I was not single saying that I missed being single, only at that point because all my close girlfriends were single. Not 2 weeks after I had said that, BAM, I was single. And thus the cycle began again.
Here's the thing about being single, its a time to overexpose your independence. You are able and should make everyone in a relationship miss being single. You have no one to answer to. You can behave as badly as you would like. Flirt with everyone and make a shit-ton of friends. That's my philosophy and it worked great! I was the queen of "the 1st date max". Yup, 98% of the time, noone got past the first date. The theory I kept to myself was if they wanted to spend time and money on me, who was I do deny that. Yes, I do a tiny little bit of evil in me. But, also, I knew that in the end I would 1) not have to see that person 2) still have a friend or 3) learn something new about someone and maybe be surprised in the process.
I was "the friend collector". I automatically put every new guy that I met into "friend" position for a variety of reasons. You learn more when I guy has his guard down to "his friend", its nice to fall for a friend, and you keep enough distance that you can really be yourself (dork & crazy in one) to a friend so much more than a "potential love interest". That way if something do come of the friendship and into a relationship there aren't as many surprises, like foot fetishes or ass licking. (story to come later). I find it so much easier to talk to guys as "just friends". You hold yourself with my pride and stature because you not having "a girl moment" and losing your cool about "is this the one? how do I look? am I his type?" and the million self crushing questions us women torture ourselves with.
And now that I think of it, if guys did the same thing in the beginning is would lessen the stress for all parties involved.
So the next time you are out and about, just casually strike up a conversation. "Hi, I'm new in town (even if you're not). Where does one go to make new friends?" Ask someone standing at the bar that strikes your fancy or even the bartender.
Being is so much fun if you take the future worries of being with someone out of the equation.
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