Classic tale: girl likes boy, boy likes girl but is skittish. Girl creates ellaborate scheme and games in own head to somehow justify boy's actions and bend him to her will.
Let me get this out in the open. I was the master as making men fall in love with me. And how I am able to do this knowing basic human psychology traits. This blog was started off as "Dating like a master" with me being the master. Now, I'm not saying I controlled men in relationships, that's not my M.O. but if there was a guy I wanted, I got him. PERIOD
With that said, I try to help women keep a grand amount of self-respect for themselves and hold themselves with a certain kind of stature when it comes to starting a relationship or getting the guy that they want (or girl for that matter). But you can only lead a horse to water, you can't yank their head out of their own ass to make the drink (Pollack version).
Time and time again I talk with friends or strangers in passing about how to get a guy. Women's biggest issue is that more times than not they give way too much way too fast. Or they start seeing someone and want to move things super fast, or just too fast for the other person. I tell these women to stop, look and listen, just like if you were standing by railroad tracks waiting for a train and NOT get hit. Why not flip the script and be something worth fighting for. Men are hunters, women are gathers, but these days it seems like men are lazy and expect the world come to them and women think they need to now take the initiative to go after these men. OH! and then if they get these men, these poor women have no idea why these men (I'm sorry...guys. Real men aren't like this) don't ever take initiative for themselves and go above and beyond for their women. Well......duuuuuuuh, they didn't in the beginning why would they start now? This is a topic that I could dedicate a whole chapter in a book, that yes I will write. But for now I am going to keep it really simple....well when it comes to men and human nature.
1. humans: we want what we can't have. If you want someone to want you, let them know they can't have you.
2. Men are hunters. Let them hunt. If you want to be fought for, you have to be far enough away for him to want to hunt for you.
3. If you're in a mess of a emotion situation and you have to plot or scheme to get what you want, most likely its for the best that you don't go for it and/or end up getting it. There's signs all around us that are helping us go in the right direction. Heed those warnings.
4. Let people be people. It's amazing what you will learn if you just set back and watch people live.
5. Stay you! If you have to put your feelings aside for someone else who's too afraid to acknowledge your feelings or their own issues, time to move on.
6. “If you love somebody, let them go. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were.”
Keep it simple. If something isn't working out, don't force it. You should have to plan out a war just to get into a relationship.
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