We are born to the parents that we are supposed to be born to. Good or bad as they may be, they are HUMAN! I believe we are put with our parents to learn the most from them, and them from us. Whether to be like them or to NOT be like them. In my case it was an equal balance of what to do and what NOT to do, in shaping the person I wanted and should be.
I learned a long time ago, the "light bulb above the head action" that my parents were human AND that since they've been alive a hella-lot longer than I had that I might want to listen to them. And learn from them. I stuck by their sides and tried to listen to their stories (that were in English) as much as possible. Then when I was able to start forming sequential thoughts about myself, I started asking my parents about their lives, their mistakes and successes. I was and will always be a sponge. I don't know everything in the world, but I can certainly ask about everything.
I saw my mom's battles against my dad. My dad being from the "Old country" (Poland) his mentality on providing for a family and having a home were much different from my mom's. His word was law and it didn't matter how he behaved or misbehaved. My mom being raised in a female servant mentality household held onto what little hope she had that things work out for the better. My father was a character and I can see why my mom fell in love with him, but for all the good things there were more bad things that came along. From verbal abuse to alcohol abuse, it was a very inconsistent life.
I came away from so many wonderful insights to life from my parents, I would never change it in the world. Yes, I wish he was around more, but maybe it's a blessing in disguise that he wasn't. I learned from my mom that you can find the silver lining in everything because it can always get worse. I learned to roll with the punches and to appreciate the little things like having 3 different kinds of ice cream in the freezer. I learned from my dad what I don't want in a mate and through trials and tribulations, I found the perfect one for me.
From what I have learned, I know have some of the best friends in the world and the most amazing husband that is my perfect match, down to the crazy fights that we have had. I love him so much and he fits into my family as much as I fit into his. I have a whole new family to call my own that is so wonderful, without the lessons from my mom and dad, I would never get to have.
Was it hard? At times I felt broken inside. Was it easy? At times I was on top of the world. But doesn't everybody go through a life like that?
Best-est-s!!!! Merry Ms Berry
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