Would you want you?

Take a step back and put yourself in someone else's shoes. If you are pining away for someone to settle down with, would you settle down with you? What kind of person do you want to be with and are you the person that will fulfill the needs of that person?

Too many times I see my young friends, living a carefree life hoping from one relationship to another, with not a care in the world. But as we get older, doubt sets in and the dreaded "biological clock" starts ticking in their ears. Settle or continue the search? If you've been a relationship for a long period of time (ie greater than 4 years) are you going to continue to wait around for more with the hopes that it will happen because 1) you've put the time in your deserve it or 2) all that time and you don't want to have to start over in fear of more time you have to wait or 3) will you find someone else?

I myself have never bothered to entertain those desperate feelings of being alone and scared that I would end up by myself. For some reason I knew that I would get married and have a family. How, I don't know how except for I had a dream that I was with "the one" and since I wasn't there yet, I had time. I believe you are given little signals all around to help ease your heart & mind. Also, I was engaged at 20 to my first love, and if he wanted to marry me and that ended, in my mind it meant that I was marrying material and I just haven't found "him" yet. So when I was single I lived like I was and didn't worry about the next person. I was single for a reason, so let the fun begin. Of course, I toyed with the thoughts of, I wonder if this is the guy or not. I guess we'd have to wait and see. But if he wasn't I had no qualms moving on. Why waste time if you already know you're not meant to be. I'm not a stage 5 clinger and I think that's one thing that intrigues guys.

Guy want to be in control. Deep down they want to take care of their women. Well....most men do. I know a few that like to be babied like their mothers did for them. Ya, no thanks. But if you are so desperate to get married and have children, don't you think you might be wearing that in your eyes, ultimately taking control away from your guy. Yes, its good to be open and honest about what you want in your life, but is the clock ticking so loud that the rest of the world can hear it?

Love you! MerryMsBerry