Gimme a break, gimme a break, break me off a.......nevermind!

A wonderful girlfriend on mine who I love love love asked for this particular topic to be covered. When to take a break. This is specifically for those who are single and just "dating". 

Somewhere between soap operas and Cosmopolitan magazines, women came up with this idea that it's NOT okay to be alone. And I say WHY THE HELL NOT?!?! Whether you are just new to the world of being single, a single parent trying to make ends meet or have had a string of unsuccessful potentials fall by the way side, sometimes you just need the relationship crap to stop. 

If you have ever felt defeated, exhausted or just plain annoyed with the thought of another date or dealing with another whiny guy's issues, you have reached that point. Take a break! More times than not, when one relationship ended I did NOT want another one to deal with. I had thoughts and feelings of my own that needed to be sorted out and repaired. Why should I have to put my feelings aside just because someone wants to give me attention? Well, maybe I don't want your attention. Maybe I don't want to deal with you. Maybe I just want to sit at home with my dog and zone out on a blank wall....IN PEACE! 

Everyone needs time to heal and regroup, or just figure out what's next. I have found that it's in that time of being alone with my thoughts is when I truly got to know myself and really learn what I wanted more for and from myself. If you are not happy with yourself, you are not going to make anyone truly happy and no one will make you truly happy. How can you expect someone to love the little intricacies of you if you don't love them yourself? Taking time for just yourself repairs so much more than broken hearts. It gives you the opportunity to change yourself into someone stronger and wiser. You can reflect from an outsider's point of view, as if you have an out of body experience, floating above yourself, and seeing things with a whole new set of eyes. It's quite wonderful. Also, it gives you the chance to really figure out what you want next. Whether that be nothing at all or creating the perfect soul mate in your mind. If you don't know exactly what you want then how is the universe supposed to bless you with it?


Don't listen to those people that tell you that you NEED to be with someone. You NEED to do what you are COMFORTABLE with. If you get queasy thinking about putting an effort towards relationship bull-doodie then.....DON'T DO IT. I know plenty of people who are at peace with just being with themselves knowing that when they are ready for more then they just switch gears and put the vibe out. Being or trying to be in a relationship should be fun and exciting, not like a job with constant worry or dread. Also, I've found that after taking time for yourself when you are ready great people will just drop into your life, kinda a like a prize for the universe say "Good job, have a present."


Cosmically yours, Merry Ms Berry

Starting with the basics

this is my first blog on dating. after thinking about what topic I could a co-author for, I realized I have a lot of experience in dating and in my prime I was amazing. Not in a sense I would turn and burn and hurt others in the process, which is against all my morals. But in a female sense where I got exactly what I wanted, when I wanted it. Please excuse my typing because my shift key doesn't always work. so let's start with the basics.

How do you want to be treated?
a lot of times girls don't act how they want to be treated. You have to figure out if you just want to have fun, if you want to date a lot or if you are looking for a serious long term relationship. when you know that, I can help act and bring out the best in you in just a manner to get what you.

Next major part!!!! Place yourself at a place or area that you enjoy. If you have hobbies, play sports or have a passion for something, you want to be with or around someone with the same habits. This is why online dating is such a huge market because you are able to filter 1000's of people in a split second and find someone you'll have something in common with. also, there in lies the problem, just because you have something in common with someone doesn't always mean you are meant to be with them. I have known women that cling onto one or two things about someone's personality, thinking that its more than its actually its.

another major point to make about dating, short term, long term, rapid fire, you are or at least should run some numbers. just like sales, the first shot may or may not hit big. I want you to know that you could or could not meet the man or woman or are met to be with. some are and some are meant to find our soul mates later in life. I believe God wants us to know exactly what or who we want before giving that person to us.

This is all for right now....more to come. If you find what I have said in these few paragraphs then please follow me and email me anytime you would like. I am here to help you achieve what you want and believe that I led a life equal if not better than ms. carrie. ttys xoxo