When to Let Go!

Being a proud stubborn, slightly eccentric Pollack, I don't like to admit defeat and used to be a very poor loser. Over time I have realized that you have to lose at some games and parts of life to learn and appreciate the lessons that God wants us to learn. Now I am about to be a gracious loser but I still do the happy dance when I win.

With that said, we are not meant to date everyone. When relationships end, it doesn't mean that they are a failure, it just means there is something or someone better is meant to be in your life in the future (whether tomorrow, the next day, the next year or whatnot). But the longer you have to cling, claw and convince someone to stay in your life, or be that person being convinced, the longer you prolong true (meant to be) happiness. 

If you are fighting over trivial, small things....it might be time to reconsider your relationship.  If you both cannot be nice to one another, there are bigger problems underlining the smaller issues. 

If you are asked or are asking for "one more chance" and you've receieved at least 3 of them. Your "one" more chance is over. If you or they didn't learn the first or even the second time, its time to move on. 

You are changing yourself or expecting the other person to change who they are, how they act or what they believe. If you or they are not meeting certain standards then it means you don't have the same morals or values and it's time to move on. 

When you avoid or "conveniently forgot" devices of communication. If you find yourself wanting to escape from even talking with the one you are in a relationship with it's time to escape the whole relationship. 

You feel bad or poor about yourself. We are in relationships to feel loved, inspired, uplifted and vulnerable. If you are making someone feel about themselves or being made to feel bad, then you are not soul mates, move on. 

These are just a few examples of when and why to let go. It is perfectly normal and okay to end a relationship. Just like taking in oxygen we have to let go of carbon dioxide, toxic to us but beneficial to plants. You heart & body physically will let you know when you are in a good or bad relationship. Example, I would get physically sick because of a bad relationship. My ulcer would flare up, I would lose weight and just look like death. I couldn't even tell you a good reason why I let this douche bag stay in my life. I wanted him gone so badly and yet he would not leave. He's pure evil. BUT because of me standing my ground and ridding that evil from my life no matter what, I was blessed with meeting my husband. Out with the bad and in with the fabulous!!!! When you close one chapter another one automatically beginnings. It's as simple as turning the next page. 

I love you and want you to be happy. I have so much to share with you, please ask me anything. I've gone through a ton and learned from all it. Learn from me learning. 

<3 MerryMsBerry

Starting with the basics

this is my first blog on dating. after thinking about what topic I could a co-author for, I realized I have a lot of experience in dating and in my prime I was amazing. Not in a sense I would turn and burn and hurt others in the process, which is against all my morals. But in a female sense where I got exactly what I wanted, when I wanted it. Please excuse my typing because my shift key doesn't always work. so let's start with the basics.

How do you want to be treated?
a lot of times girls don't act how they want to be treated. You have to figure out if you just want to have fun, if you want to date a lot or if you are looking for a serious long term relationship. when you know that, I can help act and bring out the best in you in just a manner to get what you.

Next major part!!!! Place yourself at a place or area that you enjoy. If you have hobbies, play sports or have a passion for something, you want to be with or around someone with the same habits. This is why online dating is such a huge market because you are able to filter 1000's of people in a split second and find someone you'll have something in common with. also, there in lies the problem, just because you have something in common with someone doesn't always mean you are meant to be with them. I have known women that cling onto one or two things about someone's personality, thinking that its more than its actually its.

another major point to make about dating, short term, long term, rapid fire, you are or at least should run some numbers. just like sales, the first shot may or may not hit big. I want you to know that you could or could not meet the man or woman or are met to be with. some are and some are meant to find our soul mates later in life. I believe God wants us to know exactly what or who we want before giving that person to us.

This is all for right now....more to come. If you find what I have said in these few paragraphs then please follow me and email me anytime you would like. I am here to help you achieve what you want and believe that I led a life equal if not better than ms. carrie. ttys xoxo